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Babywearing = freedom + empowerment

Posted by on April 27th, 2013 | 0 comments »

We loved reading these vivid, touching details of babywearing from day 4 of parenting on through 18 months!  Read how this babywearing mama has woven the art of wearing her baby into a journey of parenting with great confidence.

This was written by a fellow Parenting Enthusiast at Nurtured and an organizer of the local HRM babywearing group.   Whitney’s shout out to Nurtured as a local Shop Hop spot was much appreciated of course too!

Enjoy!

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On day four of my on day four of my daughter’s existence, we planned a day trip to the Public Gardens….

I was sore, bruised and mentally drained, having spent ninety percent of the prior 80 some (or seemingly 8million) hours teaching myself and my daughter how to breastfeed, with some small, but excruciatingly sore success. Yet I knew the sun would do us all some good, so we wrapped that precious little bundle up in a cozy little wrap, and we waddled our way to freedom. Or I guess I should really call it the nearest bus stop.

Then and there, we were hooked. For all the self-doubting I had done, for all the paranoia and anxieties I had as a new mother, holding my baby close was something I was certain felt right. There was a sense of empowerment and pride in wearing her, as I was able to prove to myself, above all others that I was going to make this work. That I could slowly incorporate bits of normal life back into my routine, and that we could all cope with the adjustments.

She was cozy and content. I was ecstatic. Later in the day, my partner and I both found ourselves peed, pooped and spit upon, while taking turns wearing her through the Gardens, but the overall feeling of success of that day could never be touched.
For me, baby wearing is my expression of who I am. It is my art.

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You can read more from Whitney on babywearing and shopping local at Shop Hop.

A Nurtured Moment

Posted by on March 9th, 2013 | 0 comments »

I’ve been unplugged (by phone) this week. It’s somewhat nurturing!

My iPhone was thrown into a toilet (who put the “toy” in toi-let?) and is sitting in rice.  I’ve learned patience, breathing techniques and how to be resourceful past Google!

Perhaps I’m not celebrating all that the adventurous toddler is exploring, but I’m thankful he’s learning too even if it’s through experience.

 

Ancora Imparo.  I’m still learning.

Head colds crafts tissue and you tube

Posted by on February 24th, 2013 | 0 comments »

Christmas orders yet awaiting local pickup have been a clear indicator this winter’s yo-yo weather has wreaked havoc for many! Our household was not spared and I count my blessings for the many ways we were not affected [infected too].

During said winter quarantine I encouraged my troop to hunker down and weather the feverish storm.  JuneBug found a clearing of lethargy just as Sweet Potato and I were settling in to a morning slumber.

There was a sudden awakening, “Mommy, I need you!”

“Mommy, I want to make a craft.  Wake up.”

I’m sure there was much jostling at this point.  I do recall a cozy nestling feeling radiating an immense warmth through my body which pulled my eyelids heavily shut. I wished I was the mom that sprung into action when her child asked her to craft even under the influence of a desperate cold/flu.  Apparently  I tend not to take crafting so seriously.  I leave that to ECMC and an amazing lot of entrepreneurs I am privy to source.  I had neither the energy nor focus to craft.

JuneBug was thrilled to be feeling inspired.  I could hear it in his voice.  “Mommy remember the paper snake I made that one time?  I need to make one again since I can’t find him.”

Feverish, dreaming, sleep talking…I considered if he was old enough for crafting via YouTube.

When SweetPotato woke minutes later I admit I handed him a box of tissues to empty one by one.

Eventually we made our way to the kitchen table.  We glued paper together, stuck toilet paper tubes with brads, folded airplanes and stamped celery stalks into paint.  I put aside the tissue box and SweetPotato played with stickers and large wooden beads.

A day spent at home called for me to kick it up a notch on the craft box.  A six year old’s brain is wired like a Pinterest board.

The Easter Egg colouring kit is already on order and the paper snake parts are in a stapled paper bag just waiting to be put together.  Nurtured is now fully stocked in art supplies mind you.  I’d suggest you thank the winter germs for inspiration, but I’m not planning on seeing them anytime soon.

A Nurtured Moment: Ancora Imparo

Posted by on February 15th, 2013 | 0 comments »

One of my Nurtured moments of late.   I love the Italian phrase made ever reknown by Michelangelo, “Ancora Imparo” which translates, I’m still learning.

We went out to shovel the snow a few days ago and JuneBug made tracks for me announcing they were “perfect” for my feet to follow.   There is so much bursting inside this little smile waiting to learn about the world.  The day he smiled for the camera he and I indulged in swinging at the playground even though the temperatures were far below frigid.  I had been busy all week, putting off after school playground visits to “tomorrow”.  His patience and persistence, the questions he asks, the stories he tells, even the boundaries he tests fill my day with learning about what it means to walk beside and parent him…and when he’ll let me, make the tracks in the snow for him to follow too.

Winter Bloom

Posted by on February 4th, 2013 | 0 comments »

In the cold, dead of winter, it’s good to be reminded of the beauty of nature.

I awoke early this morning to the sound of my neighbour shoveling the sidewalks.

I thought of Saturday’s mix of brisk air and sunny skies and was grateful it called my family outdoors to play in the garden before the storm. We watched as Junebug smashed blocks of ice from forgotten flower pots and then poked around the shed for more. I pointed out signs of life to the boys in the form of buds on dormant trees and bushes. I know they didn’t truly share my interest. Junebug and Sweet Potato were simply excited I took out the giant loppers to snip away a few branches.

What they don’t know is I’m hoping to work a little wintertime magic.

In the weeks to come I’ll put a vase of forced magnolias or forsythia branches in the shop. (Fingers crossed for beginner’s luck!)

The local groundhog predicts it will be six more weeks of winter. The snow shoveling continued outside lulling me to sleep like white noise. I thanked God for not only one magnolia tree but two, a fresh supply of Anointment’s shea butter, scrubby herbal clay cleanser and 2013 swimwear order forms.

Breastfeeding Community of Practice

Posted by on January 1st, 2013 | 8 comments »

I sat down at 1pm AST today and I nursed my baby.  We didn’t make the news.

Though I was in a retail setting while feeding my baby I wasn’t at a nurse-in (nor was I asked to leave for doing so).

Though I run a small business and brought my child to work today I’m not the owner of an Italian restaurant (nor was I served a complaint by a health official).

I am closing out the year feeling blessed to raise my child in an uplifting environment encouraging of and nurturing in my relationship and care taking of my baby.  I live and work in Halifax Regional Municipality.

I fed my child at Nurtured today.

 

I fed him while customers were milling about boxing week specials and in my place of business.  I fed him in our breastfeeding friendly area, outfitted with signage and lounging furniture (including a specific armless chair purchased through a government grant in fact) in an area filled with resources for parenting (both breastfeeding and bottle feeding friendly mind you).   There is a plaque hanging nearby stating this place of business is a proud member of the Breastfeeding Community of Practice.  There is a sticker on the door with the international symbol for breastfeeding.  My customers and coworkers likely saw my chest.  The way my toddler feeds he likely exposed my breast.  Heck, he put his hand down my shirt.

I also fed him at the grocery store this week while I was buying eggs and again at the checkout.  We didn’t make the news then either or receive any complaints.

Yet twice in the span of a week two mothers in HRM and their breastfeeding babies made national news shining light on the discouragement of our province’s breastfeeding community.  In a recent opinion article by the Chronicle Herald’s Lezlie Lowe she cited the “wretched” 12% breastfeeding rate for babies in Nova Scotia still nursing after 6 months.

Indeed public places are also for babies  as we’ve seen in other media of 2012 and a message from our Minister of Health.

But are they for babies in HRM?  Lezlie Lowe’s article this past year questioned that. This week’s news questioned that.   If your jaw didn’t drop over the news this past week perhaps it did over the fact these mothers are still nursing their eight month olds.

Congratulations to Kendra-Ann and Hannah for continuing their breastfeeding relationship past our province’s “norm”.

Alas, that part didn’t make the news.

Nursing your baby at your place of business while clearing a table or in a busy retail setting while sitting down shouldn’t make people pause for questioning whether this is in or out of place, convenient, healthy or good for business. The past week’s unfortunate events wouldn’t have happened were we a true utopia of a breastfeeding community.  To contrast, Mongolian mothers will commonly lift their shirts, grab their breasts and wave them at their hungry child [from birth to 6 years and up].  I know this isn’t Mongolia nor do I particularly want it to be.  However, I do wish we supported women breastfeeding publicly as if they could unabashedly charade such intentions. Call me a lactivist. I wish all mothers could breastfeed.   I wish expecting and adoptive parents knew more about the possibilities of lactation. I wish there was a local milk bank. I wish someone higher and mightier than me would realize the health stats for mothers and children of our province would be better simply by an increase in our breastfeeding rates.   Rest assured you don’t have to be able to breastfeed to be pro-breastfeeding.

No matter what I wish, let’s agree in the new year a mother’s arms are the safest place for a baby to be.

I have a resolution for 2013 I’d like to suggest:

On the eve of a new year as a business owner, a breastfeeding mother, a member of the Breastfeeding Community of Practice and a resident of Nova Scotia, Canada,

I’m resolving to consider a child feeding or being comforted as a human right.  I hope you’ll try the same. I’d like to think Nova Scotians are ready for it.

Your baby or your neighbour’s baby  may not file taxes yet or vote, but he is the future of our province.  He’s a stat in the health, the educational well being and economic outlook of the province.  I don’t feel a sense of entitlement in pointing this out.  Frankly, I feel ignorant I didn’t put more weight into this fact any earlier.

I sat down at 1pm today and I nursed my baby.  So what?

I feel like the immediate community nurturing my breastfeeding relationship is newsworthy. Free drop-in breastfeeding support with Pampered Mamas Doula Services was at 1:30pm AST today at Nurtured. I met a brand new mother that I hope is well on her way to a great start after today’s meet up. Personally it’s fourteen months going strong; I’ve surpassed where I my first weaned. My child is healthy.  I’m healthy.  His immunity benefits in this second year of breastfeeding are now higher than those in the first.  My rates for developing breast cancer continue to lower.  I am privileged to bring him to work with me and I nurse him in plain view of my coworkers and customers without much thought, air of arrogance or complaint.

Generally I am caught off-guard by the community of well-wishers while I am nursing.  Let’s make that the news in 2013.  Let’s promote the health of our children and the support we receive from HRM and Nova Scotia.  Become a community cheering on breastfeeding goals be they learning a proper latch while still in hospital or just when your milk has come in, establishing a healthy supply during maternity leave or returning to work.  Continue a community of encouragement as you watch these babies reach milestones and live a healthy lively life well into adulthood and parenting their own tiny Nova Scotians.

For 2013 when you notice a mother feeding her child just walk on by or give her a thumbs up.

Happy new year.

Spirit of giving

Posted by on December 27th, 2012 | 0 comments »

The annual season of giving has past. We hope it left you feeling full of joy and abundantly blessed in your ability to delight another’s spirit.

One day not long ago an online order was placed  with a long note attached explaining it was a gift meant to brighten the day of a child at a local hospital.  We followed up with a phone call to inquire how else we could help.

The behind the scenes role was immensely enjoyed by those of us working that day.  The gifts were boxed up, the box was hand decorated and by the time we were done several of the items were peeking out through the tissue. The box was then finished off with a sheet of kite paper folded into an origami oracle.  The gift giver’s message was tucked inside. Later that day it was dropped off at the nurse’s station for the final transport to the child’s room.

The thank you the family shared with the gift giver was eventually relayed back to us.  Spirits were lifted in their challenging time and their child was enchanted with make believe and play instead of tests and treatments.  What was humbling for us at Nurtured was the gift giver had entrusted us with what was going to the child wasn’t harmful to their environment or a weakened immune system.

 

In sharing the story recently with another Nurtured customer he marveled at the idea and the potential energy behind it.  “I love it!  How do I buy a package for a rainy day?” he inquired.

I promised I’d take the initiative and begin a formal way to create giving to a child in need of a little brightening.   I thanked Glenn (last name witheld) for partaking in the  season of giving.  To that he responded, “it’s always time to give to children.”  Special thanks to Glenn who has become the first official donor to Nurtured’s first rainy day program.

We at Nurtured love kids and we know that kids sometimes need a little extra sunshine in their lives. We will be focusing our future fundraising efforts on keeping the Rainy Day program alive. A portion of every sale will go towards this fund and we will also be sharing our mission with suppliers and customers alike. Please click here for more details.

While our logo isn’t finished yet it is shaping up to look something like this. Many thanks to our graphic designer, Janet Murphy for creating this in support if the program. She is donating her fees to the cause.

 

To help kickstart this project and add to Glenn’s generous donation we are doing something special this week. Any toy purchased during our Boxing Week Sale will be cause for a donation by Nurtured to the Rainy Day Box program. Even though your child has probably received toys this Christmas remember that there are birthdays and special occasions coming. Not only do you save money by planning ahead but you are also giving another child an opportunity to smile on a day when they otherwise might not.

Thank you in advance for your kindness and generosity. You may just find that by giving to this worthwhile cause that you receive much more than you have ever given.

-Jolyn

 

 

 

Birth Day Celebration

Posted by on October 13th, 2012 | 0 comments »

My baby turned one year old yesterday.
I hesitate with the temptation to place several grammatical enunciations in between and around those words.
The changes and growth in the first year will never cease to amaze me. I’m proud and astonished.

In Karen Reed’s recent workshop something she said to her attendees stayed with me.

I immediately took to the idea of telling Sweet Potato his birth story on his birthday.
I can imagine the future teenage eye rolls even as I look at my now cherub faced sleeping boy.
Telling the birth story on the birthday will become my own little parenting tradition.

I love it! I hope you do too! Thanks, Karen!

 

Stair climbing baby

Posted by on September 23rd, 2012 | 3 comments »

My mother had me laughing earlier this week over her experience raising four children and being the oldest of seven. A tip I found surprising was her survival of the fittest near-insistence that my sisters and I learn to climb the stairs safely. “Every house we lived in had stairs! I would spend hours making sure you could go up and down them safely.” Carpeted, steep, wooden, narrow stairs with a landing that turned, twisted or had a glass door at the bottom…

I’ve been watching Sweet Potato go up and down the wooden staircase all morning (on his own lead with me perched right behind). He took to the stairs quite confidently months ago. Once the ascent is completed he claps with self-pride then looks to me for approval. In contrast he promptly turns around and approaches the top step with vigorous enthusiasm. Face first.

I’ve set out to curtail and redirect this maneuver. I’m proud to report a 90 degree shift in progress thus far.

His speed on a staircase stirs amazement and goose-bump induced fear in me. Within our four walls I infuriate NurturedDad with my laid-back trust in our baby’s autonomy. In the meantime you can catch me on the staircase directing with focused breath, “turn around” patting Sweet Potato’s chubby thigh to prompt the clumsy shift and stretch for one leg to descend a step at a time.

Sometimes parenting quite literally involves baby steps.

When did your child successfully tackle the stairs? Did you use a baby gate?

Road Trip with Kids Entertainment

Posted by on August 8th, 2012 | 0 comments »

A panoramic scenic Rocky Mountain Range lay before us, my interest was elsewhere.

I smiled at my tiny traveller as we drove the length of the road without a shoulder. He was likely due for a stretch and maybe a change, but he was so good natured we pressed on.  Puffing my cheeks and pressing the air from the left side to the right followed by blowing it out with a surprise raspberry sound on repeat made for a good humoured ride. Breathtaking mountain views fail to astonish a toddler.

My face was sore when we arrived to our destination.

  • Twenty rounds of peekaboo
  • Chanting a dozen trips for a little piggy off to the market
  • Singing wildly rambunctious songs about frogs slurping up flies & bears in the woods

I was strengthening smile muscles and developing laugh lines in those early days of motherhood.

On later trips, oversized stickers, crayons, books, puppets, snacks and music made trips easy. I commonly heard other parents say their child despised the car seat and could never travel anywhere. I’d pat myself on the back for the supermom powers I had honed.  Junebug was simple to travel with.

 

Growing my family to have two kids has given me a null hypothesis regarding road trips with children are easy if you’re well prepared.  It’s a fact, every child is different.

Darling child number two, Sweet Potato, has been struck with a fear of sitting and remaining strapped into the car seat (the ever-comfortable, over-researched car seat).  Knowing this full well, we took the baby on his first long car trip over Canada Day.  Parenting guilt, anyone?  

A GPS set for Maine with a travel time of 8 hours reinforced the theory this baby does not appreciate long car rides.  We even took along the favourite 6-year old big brother full of singing joy, a few of the favourite toys, teethers, snacks and a grandmother.  My years of Rocky Mountain roadtrip practice amounted to cries and tears.  The six year old still found my antics laughable.

I seem to look busty in the family trip photos from all the roadside comfort-feeding suckles.

Like so many journeys in parenting, this bump in the road is a stage. I won’t always be shaking a maraca at my child to encourage calm buckling up.  I hope.  It’d be a long walk to Maine with a baby in a carrier.

Do you struggle with this stage?  We recently asked our Facebook readers what tips & tricks they use for encouraging little ones to buckle in and taking on a long car ride. Here’s what they had to say about what to pack in the car for a long trip!   We love the DIY eye spy containers!  As always, you’re welcome to join the conversation! Look forward to hearing from you!