Posts by Tag: doula

Birth Day Celebration

Posted by on October 13th, 2012 | 0 comments »

My baby turned one year old yesterday.
I hesitate with the temptation to place several grammatical enunciations in between and around those words.
The changes and growth in the first year will never cease to amaze me. I’m proud and astonished.

In Karen Reed’s recent workshop something she said to her attendees stayed with me.

I immediately took to the idea of telling Sweet Potato his birth story on his birthday.
I can imagine the future teenage eye rolls even as I look at my now cherub faced sleeping boy.
Telling the birth story on the birthday will become my own little parenting tradition.

I love it! I hope you do too! Thanks, Karen!

 

on having a doula

Posted by on December 14th, 2011 | 2 comments »

Once a week for the past eight weeks I’ve been awoken at 3:30am.
It’s the sound of the street sweeper, onerous and disruptive, passing by.

I’m delighted to hear it.

The sound of the truck passing reminds me of time spent in labour anticipating the arrival of my newborn baby.

Leading up to the introduction of my local street sweeper I had sought out a doula to be by my side those 2 months ago. I have known since I welcomed my first baby I was going to have a doula, a midwife, or a highly bribed labor & delivery nurse should I ever birth another child.

With our firstborn and twenty hours in to an induced labour, my husband and I felt lost as our nurses began to fight over whether I should be pushing.  Four additional hours of hard pushing later, my body was exhausted and my baby was still “stuck”.  The medical team went MIA as they called for a caesarian only to discover the OR was still booked.  My husband, my constant support, was fuming.  We gradually regrouped and he helped me funnel my discouragement into enough energy that our son was finally born with the aid of a funny looking bicycle horn called a vacuum. I hadn’t had a vision of an ideal birth, but I knew something had gone awry. When I inquired how many stitches I had, my doctor replied something in the manner of how easy it was to lose count.   The nurse who gave me a peri bottle used the word ‘balloon’ to describe a small area that should fit between my legs.  “Hmm, Epsom salts and stool softener twice a day”, the nurse who discharged us said with congratulations.

I booked my six-week checkup for a week later.

I’ve hung on to these vivid memories ever since.

Pregnancy is a vulnerable time to ask someone to help find what makes you comfortable and guide you through labour, delivery and post partum. Trust me, it pays off.  If you ask mothers why they chose their specific doula, they will likely say something just “clicked”. For me, I sought out a doula who could be my emotional but also objective support in labour.  I wanted a confident handholder, knowledgable resource for comfort measures and coach.  Adding in personal characteristics such as a willingness to be a teammate with my husband, a listening ear with a dash of an analytical head shrink, a great masseuse, a baker who could lend me a cup of sugar and also a woman of faith to thank God for my baby when I met him or her, I met Wanda.

What my doula brought to the table, figuratively, was a game board with all the options lain out, appreciation for the birth process, consistent care and a vote of confidence.  We discussed the fears of labour as well as any expectations before, during and after the birth I had.  We met, emailed and called several times before the birth. She reviewed my birth plan and helped me stick with it. My doula kept me informed with current literature, standard procedures and also facilitated options presented to me during labour.  She also willingly answered my call to attend my bedside as I laboured through the night.

Literally, she brought me a cup of sugar for baking banana bread at midnight while she timed my contractions. A bag of tricks to keep me comfortable from labour to delivery and a notebook were her trusty companions. After the birth she brought me a letter to my newborn that recalls the story of his birth.  Details that I will always cherish.

As my thoughts drift me back to sleep each week I have often found I rest on the support offered to me labouring through the early hours of that particular night.  There’s a heat pack around my middle, TENS machine patches on my back, a soft pat on my arm that reassures me I can relax and kind congratulatory words of confidence, so calm and soothing.

There’s nothing left to process, there’s no “what if”.  I listen to the loud whirring of the street sweeper and feel the vibration come and go like a contraction and then return around the block to pass by once again.  I hear the rise and fall of my newborn baby’s breath. I might not awake refreshed in the morning after this weekly ritual or the sleeping pattern of my newborn. I wake up grateful for the reminder the passing street sweeper brings me of my recent transition of pregnancy to mother of two. Any mental block or fear I had about labour vanished with my recent delivery. Having a doula somehow both prepares and helps a mother’s mind heal and rest from the process of birth. She sweeps away puddles of self doubt, tidies up where you can’t and offers a clean path (and a good night’s sleep).   Street sweepers optional.

Local doula resources:

Nova Scotia Doula Association
Chebucto Family Center Volunteer Program
Drop-in breastfeeding support clinic at Nurtured led by doula, Jen Hammond

(My personal thanks belongs to Graceful Beginnings!)

The learning curve

Posted by on May 3rd, 2011 | 0 comments »

“Of course I plan on breastfeeding my baby” I confidently proclaimed to my mother in law one day on the phone.

Breastfeeding was something I was committed to from the start of pregnancy. Although it was not my mother in law’s cultural norm, it was mine.

I’ve had the opportunity to attend a focus group on Nova Scotia breastfeeding initiatives.  It was interesting to hear the many facets of internal structures inside the medical field, hear how breastfeeding can further be supported, learn about the World Health Organization standards, and then talk about the trickle down effect of what is seen and experienced at the by new and expectant mothers.   It will be very interesting to me to read the final research later this fall.

One bunny-trail discussion I found particularly insightful was talk about cultural exposure to breastfeeding.  This struck home for me.  If my only support group had been my mother in law, I might not have chosen to exclusively breastfeed.  My background and personal research allowed me never to waiver with my initial decision.

Cultural norm or not, what really impacted my decision to learn how to breastfeed and commit to it was discovering that the breasts’ final development and a follow up to pregnancy was the end result of lactation!  My husband laughed at my commenting that being pregnant made me feel like I was part of a science fair project. So many things were developing.  The fact my breasts were changing was more difficult for me to understand than my expanding abdomen.  However, any strangeness I had felt about using my body to feed my baby was simply overcome by this single piece of knowledge that this was a natural and intentional development.

As a woman, this set of tissue was designed specifically to provide for a baby’s growth, digestion,metabolic and developmental needs and a built-in pathogen-defense system! It was an aha moment that I wish I had come to earlier on!

Learning the role of breastfeeding is not purely textbook but it should be accessible. I do recommend reading Ina May’s Guide to Breastfeeding as one book I leaned on.  And in all honesty, I will never judge a single person because breastfeeding didn’t work for them and their baby. But I will always encourage, advocate and support the mother who is gritting her teeth in those early days and trying to learn.

The amount of support you will find at Nurtured for breastfeeding is something I know April MacKinnon focused on building because of her own cultural norm.  Having a local doula, Jen Hammond, volunteer her time to provide breastfeeding support groups every Thursday at 1:30pm is instrumental to new moms in the HRM community.  I wish I had similar access in my early days of cracked nipples and balancing out supply!

Robyn Berman’s Breastfeeding 101 workshop is also approaching in 2 weeks and has space! Whether breastfeeding is your cultural norm or not, attending a workshop like this led by a passionate doula provides the education, troubleshooting and positive thinking for a head start in the learning curve.

Welcome, and Goodbye

Posted by on March 6th, 2011 | 12 comments »

In 2005 I was a new mom cloth diapering a tiny baby and feeling very isolated from my existing friends and was having a hard time connecting with new ones. I had faced significant challenges with breastfeeding and didn’t know anyone who could relate to my situation. I started thinking about the path of my life, the impact of every choice I made for my little girl on the world around me, and how I could use the information I learned as an engineer to connect with other parents who, like me, wanted to make a difference for their children, and for our environment.

By April 2006, Nurtured was born. Those first few months were full of planning, research, ordering, building and learning a whole new world of retail and e-commerce. The original Nurtured Products for Parenting website launched in August 2006 and was supported by friends, family, and a few loyal local customers. In those early months I met many women with whom I instantly shared a connection and who have become life long friends. At this time, I was pregnant with my now four-year-old and looking forward to making Nurtured my new career.

Through “word of mom” and networking opportunities locally, Nurtured hit critical mass in the spring of 2007 with a sudden upsurge in growth, which coincided with the birth of my son. Those early months were challenging, and I burned the midnight oil building a business between feeding an infant for weeks and months on end. I also participated in the “My Fair Baby” shows hosted by the Midwifery Coalition, gave cloth diaper workshops throughout HRM at yoga studios, stores owned by friends and acquaintances, and in my own home on a weekly basis. Babywearing workshops followed, initially in collaboration with my friend Tory at her (now closed) shop, Next In Line, and then, after an invitation from local doula Robyn Berman, at Uncommon Kids in Halifax and Pillars of Health in Dartmouth.

In 2008 another customer became not only one of my best friends but Nurtured’s first part-time employee when Becky Keen joined the Nurtured team one or two days a week. This was following a significant home renovation to move Nurtured from my dining room table to the basement. By the end of 2008, Nurtured had won the SavvyMom Mom Entrepreneur of the Year Award for Atlantic Canada, was still growing very quickly, and it was evident that Nurtured had outgrown its home-based location. That Fall, a lease was signed for our Halifax location.

With many late nights renovating, tag-teaming with my husband while we set up shelving and juggled child care, the Nurtured store opened on April 1, 2009 with a staff of four: Gillian (now Manager), Karen, Annie, and myself. This was incredibly rewarding but also took its toll as I was working 6 days (and sometimes nights) to get the business up and running. I can never thank Gillian, Karen, and Annie enough for their help in those early days.

2009 truly left its mark on me as a business person with the media attention we gained for opening a boutique store in the middle of a global financial recession, and for the legitimization moving to a retail store provided for the Nurtured brand. I also acquired Anointment Natural Skin Care from Anastasia Manolakos, a favourite of mine and MANY others from the Halifax Farmer’s Market, and began working on improvements and marketing strategies Anointment products, which stood out to me for their natural ingredients, lack of unnecessary “stuff” and high quality.

In 2010 Nurtured won the Small Business of the Year Award (Silver) presented by the Halifax Chamber of Commerce, was nominated in the Better Business Bureau Ethics Awards, Was 2nd Best Eco-Conscious Business in Halifax as voted by the readers of The Coast magazine, grew from a staff of four to a staff of eight, and essentially outgrew our retail store. I am very proud of all these accomplishments.

Also in 2010, I learned we were expecting our third child and both my father and my husband’s mother suffered significant health issues. With reality setting in of having a child in school, one in pre-school and an infant, we were faced with some difficult decisions. Having worked so hard while my son was a baby to build this business and the resulting burn out it caused, I had to consider carefully if this was the path my family wanted to continue to follow. My husband was also provided with the opportunity to transfer his job to another office, which would allow us to move closer to both of our extended families. With a deep breath and a lot of discussion, we decided it was time to let someone with fresh eyes build Nurtured while we cheer and watch from the sidelines.

The search for a buyer began and concluded with a lovely husband-and-wife team, Eric and Jolyn Swain along with their five-year-old son. Eric is a Nova Scotian who was longing to come home, and Jolyn, with a business background and a birth and post-partum story not unlike my own, was very excited to be part of a business with such a strong sense of environmental ethics and community. I have been working with Jolyn for some time now and I am very impressed with her knowledge, kindness, and desire to continue the community that Nurtured has become.

Over the next few weeks you will see Jolyn and I together frequently as she learns the fine details of what makes Nurtured tick. Of utmost importance to me was that the staff also be retained, and I’m happy to say that Gillian, Karen, Simone, Sarah, Jessica and Melissa will remain at the store, so you can be sure that the customer service you have been accustomed to will continue.

Jolyn has many fantastic ideas for making the great things about Nurtured even greater, and the team will remain strong and focused on the natural parenting ideals that makes Nurtured special.

I have experienced a lot of emotions over this huge change in my life, but I can say with confidence that you are all in very good hands. I will still be a regular at the store as I deliver my third baby sometime in the next three or so weeks, and I will be working away on Anointment over the years to come.

I want to thank each and every single person who has shopped in the store, come to a workshop, attended a breastfeeding support group, picked up a card for a local doula, asked for help, advice or just wanting to hear a “I’ve been there, this too shall pass”, thank you from the bottom of my heart. Nurtured is very special to me: like one of my own children, and it is my sincere wish that the Nurtured community will welcome Jolyn to the Nurtured family with open arms.

Cheers to the great circle of natural parenting enthusiasm we have all built together, thank you for allowing me to be part of it, as I will continue to be from the sidelines of my Anointment workshop, the soccer field, or wherever life takes me as I take some time to focus on my children and my family.

With love and gratitude,
April

Breastfeeding 101: Why You NEED To Learn About Breastfeeding Before Your Baby Is Born

Posted by on January 11th, 2011 | 4 comments »

A post by Robyn Berman, CD (DONA), PCD (DONA).

If you are a first time mother, or if you experienced any troubles breastfeeding your first baby, I believe it is imperative to learn as much as you can about breastfeeding and lactation in general before your new baby arrives.

Why, you ask?  Well, as a birth and post partum doula and breastfeeding educator, I have met dozens of women who, unbeknownst to them, began their journey through motherhood not knowing much about breastfeeding except that it was the “right” or “best” way to feed their baby yet experienced intolerable pain that led to very early weaning, post partum depression, disconnection with their newborn baby, and extreme lack of self confidence.

I am here to say to you: it doesn’t have to be this way.

Imagine going in to an exam unprepared.  If you go in blind, you won’t recognize any of the material, you will start to sweat and have anxiety, you may even lean over and try to cheat by copying what the person next to you is writing (which, by the way, is not always the correct answer!).  If you are prepared, you have knowledge that will guide you through the exam.  You may not remember every exact detail, but the information you studied will be accessible once you are triggered by the content of the exam.  And while you may not get it 100% correct, you will at least have the mental ability to get over the hump of the tough questions and walk away from the exam feeling pretty confident.

Apply this same logic to breastfeeding.  Sure, nothing can or will prepare you as much as having the baby in your arms.  But, if you know the terminology, if you understand our human instinct to feed from our mothers, if you learn about milk production, if you read about latch, and most importantly if you are armed with support for those moments in the early days after birth when it all seems to be falling apart at the seams, you will have the emotional and psychological ability to overcome the bumps in the road.

Yes, breastfeeding is the most natural way to feed our babies.   But, it is not naturally known.  You have to learn how to breastfeed and your baby has to learn how to breastfeed.  Each subsequent baby you have is a unique person and will have to learn for themselves, just as the first one did.  The reason why mothers of more than one breastfed child seem to have an easier time breastfeeding each subsequent baby is because they have more confidence, less second guessing, and the hindsight of knowing what to expect and how they might problem solve.

Breastfeeding 101 will leave you with more confidence, less second guessing, and some ideas about how to problem solve.  It will also leave you with ongoing support, not only with me as the facilitator, but with support from your partner (who will hopefully join you at the workshop, but if not have access to the material afterwards), and from the other women attending the workshop who are having babies around the same time as you.

The number one key to a successful and long term breastfeeding relationship is SUPPORT. See you on February 7th at Nurtured!

Workshop begins at 6:30 pm and runs until approximately 9 pm.